Children, Behaviors and Attitudes

"Children are ones wealth indeed
Their wealth is measured by their deed"

This quote is very deep and reminds us to stop taking pride of show casing our children to others. You can have many children but to raise each of them with good attitudes and behaviors is always a challenge. It does not matter how much have you spent on them providing the best of education but if they do not know how to show gratitude, respect and manners then consider yourself failed in parenting.

SOME GOLDEN THOUGHTS TO PONDER :-
(words by the famous poet, Thiruvalluvar)

1. If your child lies to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behavior.

2. If your child is not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you've lost them.

3. If your child had poor self-esteem, it is because you advice them more than you encourage them.

4. If your child does not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.

5. If your child takes things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don't let them chose what they want.

6. If your child is cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.

7. If your child does not respect other people's feelings, it is because instead of speaking to your child, you order and command them.

8. If your child is too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehavior and you give little attention to good behavior.

9. If your child is excessively jealous, it is because you only congratulate them when they successfully complete something and not when they improve at something even if they don't successfully complete it.

10. If your child intentionally disturbs you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.

11. If your child is openly defied, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don't follow through.

My favorite one would be number 6. In this modern world, very often we 'love' our kids too much. We pamper them too much and try to 'provide' them with everything they need instantly. We often fail to realize we need to 'guide' them to survive or else they will fail miserably. We need to equip them with lessons, tips and tricks to manage their lives by themselves. This does not come easy especially when we as parents think or perceive our kids should not suffer like how we did. Teach them how to wash dishes after they are done with lunch or dinner. Ask them to make their own beds and arrange their toys. Let them help you to clean the house. Tell them it is their responsibility as a child. Help them to understand nothing comes easy to us and nothing will come easy for them too. It is important that they know their parents are there to support them when they fall. At the same time, we should not feed them everything they need. Make them to earn it, you will be suprised how creative can they be!