Children, Behaviors and Attitudes

"Children are ones wealth indeed
Their wealth is measured by their deed"

This quote is very deep and reminds us to stop taking pride of show casing our children to others. You can have many children but to raise each of them with good attitudes and behaviors is always a challenge. It does not matter how much have you spent on them providing the best of education but if they do not know how to show gratitude, respect and manners then consider yourself failed in parenting.

SOME GOLDEN THOUGHTS TO PONDER :-
(words by the famous poet, Thiruvalluvar)

1. If your child lies to you often, it is because you over-react too harshly to their inappropriate behavior.

2. If your child is not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you've lost them.

3. If your child had poor self-esteem, it is because you advice them more than you encourage them.

4. If your child does not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age you have disciplined them regularly in public.

5. If your child takes things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don't let them chose what they want.

6. If your child is cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.

7. If your child does not respect other people's feelings, it is because instead of speaking to your child, you order and command them.

8. If your child is too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehavior and you give little attention to good behavior.

9. If your child is excessively jealous, it is because you only congratulate them when they successfully complete something and not when they improve at something even if they don't successfully complete it.

10. If your child intentionally disturbs you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.

11. If your child is openly defied, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don't follow through.

My favorite one would be number 6. In this modern world, very often we 'love' our kids too much. We pamper them too much and try to 'provide' them with everything they need instantly. We often fail to realize we need to 'guide' them to survive or else they will fail miserably. We need to equip them with lessons, tips and tricks to manage their lives by themselves. This does not come easy especially when we as parents think or perceive our kids should not suffer like how we did. Teach them how to wash dishes after they are done with lunch or dinner. Ask them to make their own beds and arrange their toys. Let them help you to clean the house. Tell them it is their responsibility as a child. Help them to understand nothing comes easy to us and nothing will come easy for them too. It is important that they know their parents are there to support them when they fall. At the same time, we should not feed them everything they need. Make them to earn it, you will be suprised how creative can they be!

Thru A Child's Eyes

Couple of weeks ago, during my routine walk to office, my eyes caught this sight. It was unavoidable. No one can go without noticing it. First time I saw it, my heart wrenched in pain. I kept playing the sight in my mind. And I kept asking, why, why, why?

In a corner of walkaway, there sat one lady with a child. The toddler must be not more than 3 years old. They were beggars. The first time I looked into her eyes, I saw something which I cannot describe. Our eyes were locked for few seconds. I wanted to probe to find out more, who are they? why are they here? What caused them this misery? 

I saw the  pain, anguish and sadness in the two small eyes. I felt very upset why God has created such situation. Two extreme worlds. I remember when my daughter was her age she was one happy,cheerful little girl with no boundaries. At that tender age all she knew was to play. Showered with love and care by people all around her. Each moment with her is priceless. We are so blessed to have her and to see her growing up. In contrary with what this little girl is going thru. I can't imagine what kind of environment is she is growing up? Who are her parents ? Why is she left in lurch by them ? It is heart breaking to see kids in this conditions. 

In fact there are a lot of them. Unfortunate ones in war torn countries and  poverty. No answers for these miseries. Mankind who are too greedy. Chasing after power. They are placing these kids at stake. God is merciless ? We have not found an answer.